Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Children Spanking and Crying

I decided to write this because I have been seeing something for awhile and wanted to say something. There are some people who believe in spanking a child and there are some that don't. I personally try not to but I will if it is warranted.
But what I wanted to talk about is spanking and crying.

I was at the park the other day eating a snowball with my daughter and my son's girlfriend and this couple at the table beside us had a couple of small children.
Anyway the father spanked the child who in turn starts crying. The father then proceeds to tell the child to quit crying.
Now in my opinion if someone pops me and it hurts I am going to want to cry also. Why is it that parents wants to spank their children and then turn around and tell them to be quiet. If you don't want to hear them cry-- then don't spank them.
I have never spanked my child in public. That is embarassing for the child. I wait until I get home if I have to do anything like that.
What do you think?


Erica @ Cook Quick Easy Recipes said...

LOL.. I laughed when I read your post because I have been guilty of doing that. I don't like public spankings either. My daughter is 2 1/2. She clearly knows what no means and when she is doing something wrong. After I have spoken gently, firmly, done the time out, threatened punishment, etc and she still does not listen and I spank her, I have told her to stop crying because by that time she pretty much asked for it so why cry now! I know it's ridiculous but- I guess thats why most parents do it.

Kristie said...

Thank you for writing this. I have always thought this was a cruel way to punish. Not spanking necessarily, but spanking and then not allowing the child to deal with the spanking like a child.


Monique said...

I had an aunt who would spank us and then tell us to shut up. It used to make me SO angry!

My mom never hit me as a child, but I remember crying for various reasons and having her say "be quiet before I give you something to cry about". That always put the fear of God in me because I always thought I HAD a reason for crying... I definitely didn't want to find out what else she might throw my way.

Dette said...

Giiiiiirl - I am with ya. Even shared my thoughts here...

Anonymous said...

My husband and I do use spanking as a tool for discipline, but never in public. In the park situation, we would have taken the child to the car for the spanking or possibly just gone home because of the misbehavior.
We also do not just swat our children's behind. Spanking is an event. Our children are usually taken to their bedrooms and spanked in private.